If my family treated my girlfriend the way his family treats yours I would have nothing to do with them. He needs to decide where his loyalty lies, with you or them. If he keeps dragging you over there and exposing you to this abuse then he is part of it and I would question yourself if this is the kind of life you want. To be with a man who allows you to be exposed to them. You may love him but his loyalties are not with you. If talking to them didnt work then he should should tell them if they cant deal with who he chooses as a mate they can do without him too.How do you make your boyfriend's family like you?
You can't MAKE anybody like you. You don't say how old you are, but if you and your boyfriend are adults and he feels the same about you as you feel about him, it shouldn't matter how his family feels about you. Just keep doing what you've been doing - be respectful and continue to walk in love regardless of how they treat you. You might not be able to make them like you, but everybody else will see that you've given them no reason to treat you the way they do. Don't let them come between you - from the sounds of it, they'd probably do the same to ANYBODY he dates!
honey if nice does not work then do what i do ignore them, their are times when you need to tell, ask to find out what their problem is open your mouth and start asking questions
OH WOW!
YES IT IS HARD GIRL I KNOW. HAVE A HATEFUL AND EXTREMELLY ABUSIVE MOTHER IN LAW WHO SHOULD HAVE GOTTEN THROWN IN JAIL FOR PHYSICAL ASSULT ON ME! YES OH YES SHE HAS SLAPPED ME AND HIT ME AND THROWN FROZEN SAUSAGES AT ME FOR NOT REASON OH YES GIRL I WAS UPSET THAT MY OWN HUSBAND JUST STOOD THERE LIKE A BUMP ON A LOG!
I SAY TO WHY DONT U DEFEND ME RON? HE SAYS OH SHE IS LIKE THAT. I SAID OH HELL NO! SEE I USED TO GO TO HER HOUSE AND CLEAN IT FOR FREE YES FOR FREE AND PUT MY BABY (HER GRANDSON) IN HIS PORTA CRIB UPSTAIRS AND CLEAN WELL ONE DAY GIRL I TELL U I WAS WINDEXING HER MICROWAVE AND THEN I WENT TO GO WIPE HER COUNTERS SHE WALKED IN AND SHOUTED COME HERE! COME HERE NOW!! I SAID YES? SHE GRABBED MY ARM AND SAID SO! DO U CALL THIS CLEAN?! I SAID YES WHY! SHE SAID AND SLAPPED ME DONT TALK TO ME THAT WAY MISSY! (MIND U I AM 38) SHE SAYS IT IS STREAKED DO IT OVER!! I DID AS TO NOT MAKE WAVES WITH HER. BUT I FELT LIKE PUTTING MY RAG DOWN AND WALKING OFF AND GETTING THE BABY AND DRIVING OFF TO MY OWN HOUSE. BUT I FINISHED HER KITCHEN AND DUSTED ETC...FUMING AND FELT HURT AND ANGRY AT THE SAMETIME. I TOLD MY HUBBY AND HE SAID OH WELL SHE IS OLD. I SAID BULL CRAP STILL ...I NEVER CLEANED HER PLACE AGAIN AND I HAVE NADDA TO DO W/THIS LADY. SO U BE STRAIGHT UP WITH UR MAN AND STAND UR GROUND NO ONE DESERVES ABUSE AT ALL!! GOOD LUCK HONEY ...I KNOW HOW U FEEL. HAVE A NICE WEEKEND.
~KAREN~
congratulations! being in a 3 yr relationship showns u love and respect one another. i will suggest to u that u and your boyfriend w/his family have a sit down and u can tell them that u are willing to have a nice respectable relationship w/them if they give u a chance. giving u that chance, they will find out why your boyfriend loves and is still w/u. they need to give u that chance and if they refuse or still continue the rolling of eyes etc.. treatment then u need to explain u will not be treated that way any longer because it hurts u and they are not being nice or respecting your boyfriend for choosing u to be with. its okay then once u cleared it out that u can't continue to be involved around them if the can't be nice to u.
good luck!
that's a tough one. I feel for you. My inlaws hate me even though I gave them NO reason too...I went out of my way to talk to them, buy them things and from what I understand (it's the girls) the sisters hate me because they feel threatened by me...I'm a lot younger than them and skinner...they are fat and very insecure. That is why they are mean.
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