Friday, August 20, 2010

Just broke up with my bestfriend turned boyfriend?

He was my best friend for a couple years, then he asked me out so we went out and now we basically broke up cause he told his parents about us and they said that it was the wrong time, and i know he respects his parents so we talked about it, he was asking me what we should do, so just for the sake of it i said i guess we shouldn't do this ne more cause even if were dating secretly, he would probably actually tell them the truth. yes obviously i find it kinda annoying that he has to tell them the truth everytime cause me and my family are not close in that way at all. but i respect his respect for them. he said how he doesn't want to either but we ended it. now i just feel really like it won't be the same and it feels worse than just breaking up with your boyfriend cause he used to be your best friend. i sort of want either things to be the way it used to be, he says the same but when we talk its just different. how and what should i do to make things better between us?Just broke up with my bestfriend turned boyfriend?
If you are in a true relationship as a boyfriend/girlfriend couple, the other person should also be your best friend during the relationship. There is no need to lose that friendship other than the fact that most young people are not aware of what a real relationship is. I don't mean to sound like I'm insulting you so please don't take it that way. When you are young, you are still immature in many ways. Knowing and understanding what real love is, is one example. The fact that you are being respectful (both of you) of his parents wishes is showing more maturity than most children your ages. You should be proud of yourself for that, and so should he. I am sorry that your relationship with your parents isn't as strong as his and his families are. Just remember that you shouldn't lose a friend in this, just the young love that you two have shared has changed a little for now. I don't suggest sneaking around, because his parents will dislike you for that behavior. Show them the respect that you are currently showing them, and at some point you and your boyfriend will find that his parents are more receptive to you and the dating aspect, and will eventually welcome you. You sound like a bright young lady and I think that you will find in the long run they are trying to protect the both of you.Just broke up with my bestfriend turned boyfriend?
Usually when you cross the line from friendship to romance, there's no going back to being just friends.
Keep ur friendship strong by talking through the romantic feelings y'all still have for each other. Eventually when ur older his parents wouldn't mind u two dating. But for now just honor their wishes, and keep talking and talk urselves through it.

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