What is the best way to bring up the topic of marriage with your boyfriend?

We have been dating for several months now, and I want to make sure I am not wasting my time. I don't want to scare him off by seeming like I am rushing things, or trying to be the one running the show. But I do not want to waste my time. So how do I approach this?What is the best way to bring up the topic of marriage with your boyfriend?
Find some common ground. Ask about his siblings/parents/friends marriages? Just general questions how the couple met %26amp; how long have they been together. The best time would be if you know someone who is getting married, comment on them. Depending on his response is how/whether you take the conversation further. If he has a negative response then tread carefully. But at some stage gently slip into the conversation that you would like to get married one day. Don't turn the topic into a big talk or you will scare him off.What is the best way to bring up the topic of marriage with your boyfriend?
most men have an inner rebelspirit, dont try to force it on him, just ask him when you and him are enjoying something together.


dont over do it and ask him a bunch of times. just a couple, no more than three. or occasionally.
Since you've been dating for ';several months'; and not ';several years'; I'd say that discussing marriage with him would be a mistake.


However, you can talk about marriage IN GENERAL and get a feel for if he intends to get married one day, when and with what type of woman. He'll be MUCH more comfortable talking about it that way and he will be talking about you (sort of) without using your name.
Leave copies of ';New Bride'; around, especially in the bathroom.
Just say, ';Will you marry me?';
My wife and I both agree that ';Not wanting to waste time'; and ';getting married'; should not be in the same sentence. Sounds like you are in a hurry to get married TO ANYONE. If you loved this guy we would think that you would wait for him for ever, or do anything to show him that you want to marry him.


We also agree that you should ask him after some great sex. After you show him how good you are he will not want to lose you.
wait till you are pretty sure that he would resond to that question well , my opinion would be , express how much you love him , but wait awhile yet , a several months is not long , and if you arent living together yet , not long at all , instead , move in .. if you are there already , then wait a month or two , and plan a strategy and special time to ask him , so he will remember and respect the moment for ever.
Talk to him about his goals and your goals....take little steps at a time then slowly merge into marriage related topics...
If you consider it wasting your time just by dating, you don't have anything anyway, You must build into a relationship, to show trust, build love,to get to know each others good and bad habits, and make sure your compatible. A few months isn't long enough to see which way a relationship would go either good or bad.
In a subtle way, try to ask his opinion on marriages in general some of the ones you both know and compare them with being single pros and cons what he thinks about it.
I wouldnt mention a thing about what are his intentions. If I were him I would look for the nearest exit after such a short time. How I would say it is..sometimes I sit and think where do I want to be in five years ..(i know it sounds long but again we are doing this to test the waters so to speak) I would say in five years I personally would like to have settled myself career wise, live in the city/country , maybe own a property and be settled in a wonderful loving marriage..what do YOU dream about in five years...all eyes gazed on him ...lol...but ask the right questions..you will know..
Don't bring up the subject if you aren't sure about his reaction. That probably means you don't know enough about him yet. Instead have a friend kind of feel him out about it.
how old are you?





marriage is a very very big thing don't get ahead of yourself if your younger than 26.. if your 24 atleast and very mature with your financial situation set or in a good place then just casually bring it up.





ask him what he thinks about marriage then simple throw in while he's talking.. ';with me';.. works everytime catches them off gaurd. but if you want the honest truth from him ask him what he sees in the future with you.
talk about your married friends.and slowly talk about having a kid and all that,see his reaction and slowly tell him.
A wise person once told me that you shouldn't even think about marriage until you have known someone for four seasons. I think that is good advice.





Wait a year, and if you still feel similarly, then it's time to have the ';where is this going?'; discussion....you don't want to stay in a relationship for multiple years only to find out you want different things.
There will be things that run through your head that you can't always verbalize. It may be too soon for you to discuss this with him. I would not suggest you use the words ';waste my time';. Most people don't think about marriage seriously until they are in their 30s. Marriage usually occurs when you both realize that you can't live without each other. Sometimes it requires that you spend time apart and even date other people. That's how you realize you can't live without them. Good luck. BTW: Just ask him if he ever thinks about marriage with you - but keep it LIGHT!