How long does the dating phase last before you need to make up your mind and commit or break up?

My boyfriend and I have just started dating. He's intelligent and warm-hearted, treats me w/tenderness and support, and ';ticks all of the boxes'; I've been needing for a long time - and I know he has the same opinion of me. I get excited to share things with him and spend time with him, and it's hard when he has to leave. We've started to share inside jokes, and we have a level of trust where we can tell each other anything confidently and without judgment.





But I'm not sure if he's The One; I certainly haven't had the flip-flop stomach or fireworks kisses I've had with others. Recently, he said that he didn't have the intense romantic and intimate feelings he expected to have. But as soon as we agreed to just go with the flow and have fun, he intensified 10x! As a result, now I'm doubtful.





How long can we just date and have fun before we need to make a decision? Is one hurting the other if s/he isn't sure? Isn't that the point of dating, to have fun + figure things out? Thanks!How long does the dating phase last before you need to make up your mind and commit or break up?
These things don't fit a predetermined pattern like you think.





Don't be so impatient for the relationship to ';develop';. Just let it be what it is. Over time it will either intensify or fade and you will have your answer.





Your last sentence says it all. You are on a journey and you won't be able to see around all the corners until you get to them. Good luck!How long does the dating phase last before you need to make up your mind and commit or break up?
It depends on what you can do to them on the first date!
well if you've had the fireworks with others and it's not worked out then maybe it's not a good gauge for you.


I think you are stressing about this and over analyzing the relationship. You should just go with the flow and see where it takes you.


good luck i know how difficult it is.
prob not long, if hes already into it , now his heart is involved. usually a guy cant go slow at that point. Good luck, and its time to fish or cut bait!
Who said there was a time limit on it? As long as you both want what each other wants, n thats to carry on dating, then theres no problem. Just be happy with what youve got and try not to rush things as its then it goes bad, jus enjoy yourselfs and have fun xxx
If your having that much fun together and both feel like you don't want to be on the look out for anyone atm than what are you waiting for. I say 2/3 months max is long enoughto decide whether you like each other or not, depends how often you see each other? If one of you is unsure, yes it does kinda hurt the other. Although your right dating should be about having fun, you don't want to be wasting your time on something which might not be going anywhere. Being in a relationship is just as much fun anyway, it's just more secure and who doesn't want that.